“He must have a degree.”
Or,
“He must be educated.”
You have probably heard women express that they want men with the same degree of education as themselves – “so that we can have a conversation”.
In fact, there are women who simply will not date a man unless he has got a college degree. The stereotypical ideal candidate is of course a lawyer or a surgeon.
Why is a college degree necessary
But what makes lawyers and surgeons so desirable partners to women? When you think about it, these people are ambitious, so they will be at work and not at home to talk. Also, what level of mutual understanding would a woman with a degree in child psychology reach in a relationship with a man with a degree in computer science?
- Would she understand him better as a man – after all, she has a degree in psychology
- Would he understand her better as a woman – women are complicated, but he understands sophisticated technology: of course he can, right?
- Would they really be interested in talking about each other’s line of work?
- Does a college degree ensure any sufficient ability of two people to understand – and communicate about the importance of the most vital aspects of a relationship:
- Money
- Sexual compatibility
- Children (and how you raise them)
- Religion
- Work
- In-laws
Most of these common issues in a relationship are dealt with, not with a college degree, but through independently reflecting on – and seeking information about gender dynamics, relationship dynamics, understanding human nature, understanding the opposite sex and not least, yourself.
A woman may have a college degree in child psychology, but she has yet to prove that she can think independently.
So, what are they going to talk about? Exactly what do women think comes with a college degree? Automatic knowledge about how the world works? Perhaps a degree provides a man with a mind which can read her thoughts and finally understand and see her as the way she has always wanted to be understood and seen as a woman?
Most likely not.
What is in a college degree?
The previous questions about the female preference for males with a higher level of education are essentially redundant. The reason is quite natural.
When a woman prefers a man with a college degree, she is running on her biological programming.
A vast number of women will say about the man she is looking for:
- “He has to be passionate about what he is doing”
- “He has to know where he is heading in life”
Which is the most specific women will get about their female nature and their need to find a man who has the necessary drive to succeed in life.
For the woman to feel that she has traded upwards in society, her partner needs to have his job generating more income than hers, so she can feel financially secure. His profession needs to entail higher social status than hers and finally, his profession must include his chance to rise higher on the corporate ladder to earn more money and more status as he gets older.
The woman needs the man to possess traits and resources of a quality and amount which are above her own. The things she is looking for in her man’s job are:
- Income
- Status
- The opportunity to advance
There is also the emotional dimension to the woman’s occupation with her man’s profession.
Women also need to look up to the man they are in a relationship with. In the movie “Betty Blue” from 1986, two lovers are fighting and the woman tells the man her needs straight up: “How can I love you, if I can’t admire you”?
If a woman admires her man, she is more likely to stay in the relationship, and so, by finding a man in a profession, which financially exceeds her own, she can feel secure and at the same time validate her man to herself and her female friends by proving that she caught a man above her own level.
Get specific
Yet all of this mostly lies in the woman’s unconscious mind.
If women were consciously aware of their nature and their wants, they would have a deeper sense of what they were talking about. They would be a lot more specific about whether they were looking for a man in a profession which ensures a high salary, or a man in a profession which creates an opportunity to have a conversation about mutual interests.
But you can’t ignore the facts
One fact is that a college degree is no proof of intelligence or critical thinking. Another fact is that more than half of all marriages end up in divorce. One funny thing about this fact is that both the majority of marriages and the majority of divorces are initiated by women.
It seems that modern women are dissatisfied and disillusioned – not to say confused as to what they actually want and need. It leads me to believe that a college degree is no guarantee that the person knows how to live his or her life.
A second conclusion I will derive is that you should not blindly follow the ideas and demands of people who are confused and unclarified around what they really want and need in life.
-Regardless of whether they have a college degree or not.
Men are a minority in college
Imagine a town situated by a lake. There are ten species of fish in the lake and the only restaurant in town serves only the single tastiest species from that lake. As people from the town visits the restaurant they get a taste for this one type of fish. As a consequence more and more people start going to the lake to fish for this specific breed.
In reality, there are still plenty of fish in the lake, yet since everybody only wants to catch that one species out of 10 available, the sense of scarcity becomes widespread.
This analogy pretty much sums up the case for women seeking men with bachelor degrees.
Despite the clear evidence of female preference when it comes to men’s level of education, the number of men going to college is declining. This decline will result in a growing contrast on the dating market: as more women get a college degree and fewer men attend college, the amount of eligible men to meet the standards of women will decrease even more rapidly.
Since women are biologically programmed to aim for the top 20 percent of the male population, this percentage will shrink as women raise their own social status and wages even more while more men decide to skip college. Women will end up competing for the top 10 percent of the male population.
So, since women seek men with college degrees, it makes little sense that men are opting out of college.
A matter of money
It could be the price of a college education, college tuition has skyrocketed since the 80’s.
If a young man decides to go to college, he will have to choose between a 4-year period at a public state university with an average annual cost of 9,410 dollars at a public university, or, a 4-year period at a private college with an average annual cost of 32,410 dollars.
As a result too many young men will leave college with devastating student debts ranging from 20,000 to several hundred thousand dollars.
While modern women are embracing the college experience and treating their college degree as a sparkling accessory the equivalent of a Burberry handbag, perhaps more and more young men are logically performing a cost-benefit analysis to consider whether the cost of a college degree is too inflated compared to its intrinsic value.
This would surely be the responsible thing to do.
The college environment is becoming feminized
It could also be that men are opting out of college because it is associated less with groundbreaking research and more with female values and a feminist agenda.
Study after study show that women are surpassing men in the academic field – except in STEM. In fact, the more women gain equality, the fewer women enter the STEM FIELD.
While young men are called “sluggish” and “sexist” for not entering college to become teachers and nurses, the tone is much more compassionate and solution-oriented when it comes to women’s lack of presence in the STEM field.
Furthermore it seems that in the increasingly feminized colleges, male students experience their gender being associated with “toxic masculinity” and “rape culture”.
At the same time the once free and democratic college environment, in which you could address sensitive and provocative issues in society, are compromised by accusations of “hate speech” and the use of “safe spaces” in which sensitive students are shielded from “micro aggressions” and “triggering” topics which could hurt their feelings.
In my opinion this form of emotional hysteria creates emotionally weak male and female citizens who are unable to discuss matters which feel uncomfortable or challenging.
At the same time men’s industrious and competitive nature is discarded to favor emotional consensus and support for the lowest common denominator. Asa result everyone becomes equally mediocre.
I get the impression that a feminized college will mirror the past – in that the next Nicola Tesla or Bill Gates will also have to drop out and start on their own, if they want to achieve success.
If women want more men with college degrees is seems obvious that the solution must be to treat male college students with respect and understanding instead of suspicion and accusations without merit.
Men are different from women
Another aspect mentioned for men skipping college is how the student environment is better suited for compliant girls. Young men want to be physically active instead of sitting still and repeat the theory of others
The truth is that men belong to the extreme gender. Men have a need to act and create their own space. This is the reason why men often succeed above average when they succeed, or they fail below average when they fail. Men either shoot for the stars or land in the mud when they fall.
Women belong to the average gender, simply because their achievement is linked to giving birth and taking care of children. You do not want women stressing to be either the perfect mother of super healthy and obedient children, nor do you want a woman to be an unemployed single mother of three children with three different fathers.
Men are meant to be extreme to challenge the status quo of social conventions, to take financial risk and create something new for society and mankind. Women are meant to provide stability and predictable living conditions for children to thrive.
Since the feminine is linked with compassion and nurture, it should make you wonder, that as women become the majority in the academic world, the college environment is becoming increasingly critical and exclusive of men and masculinity.
Men must be treated equal to women
If we are to live in a free world we need to take responsibility for our rights and freedoms.
Through time men have been expected to be responsible for their actions, while women have largely been excused of her emotional and opportunistic behavior due to the man’s legal and financial superiority over her. In return the man as expected to protect her and take care of her financially.
But equality has been advancing along with feminism for 150 years and with equality the rules change.
in dating:
We should ask if women are taking the necessary responsibility when complaining about the shortage of men with college degrees.
Women and society could care less if men were asking for women to keep the house and take care of their children. Those times are gone. Then women should put away their demands for men to accommodate female wants.
I do expect women to take responsibility for their wants and their own decisions. As more and more women get college degrees they will be left without an equivalent number of male matches to form relationships with. I expect that women will let men have the same freedom to make their choices of education without women and the government trying to force them into college to satisfy the female imperative or the Gross Domestic Product.
I advise any man to stop chasing that college degree to please women and start thinking for himself. The thing which will make a man capable of challenging a woman in a relationship is not a piece of paper
in college:
I also expect women to take responsibility and provide men with the same amount of equality, security and validation in the college environment, which women have demanded and gained over the past fifty years.
Men are not responsible for the consequences of feminism
A man’s ability within his profession, the social status and the paycheck that came with it was recently the major element in what a man had to attract a woman into a relationship.
Then women decided to get the education and the jobs themselves in the name of equality. And now women are complaining that men have too little to offer?
Women should have considered this biological clash with ideals of equality before they got to this point. Are men now going to be shamed or forced into the academic field to satisfy the female demand for eligible male suitors?
How about some male equality for a change?