Perhaps it is because i write stories, but at times I ponder over words sentences or quotes. Take this phrase, for instance.
“I want a man to sweep me off my feet.”
This phrase is well-known to most men who have ever approached a woman.
I have heard and read this phrase so many times with a gnawing awareness of the entitlement behind the statement but even more with the notion that it is flawed.
It is because this phrase rests on a false premise.
Imagine a circle drawn on the ground. Its diameter equals the length measured from the tip of one middle finger to the tip of your other middle finger, if you spread your arms to each side.
This circle represents how much you control in the world, which is whatever is within your reach.
Now imagine that a woman is standing twenty feet away in her own circle. The women’s circle represents how much she controls. It is equals her own reach.
Now imagine her saying to you from within her circle, twenty feet away:
“I want you to sweep me off my feet.”
In other words, she is actually telling you that you, as a man, is responsible for any relationship to happen.
Another way of saying it is: “I want you to make me like you.”
Which is a ridiculous notion, when we consider the fact that biologically, females are the choosers when it comes to relationships. They might not feel that way since they are programmed to aim for high-status males (hypergamy) and at times encounter a man who is not interested. And so they get caught in a feeling that men are in control. Their emotional state skew their view of actual reality and place them in a role as the victim. Yet women remain the choosers of relationships and in control of when sex is going to happen, whether a child should be born or who the father is going to be.
Therefore, the female notion of ‘sweeping’ is false.
So why do women use this phrase?
I believe it is their nature speaking through an adolescent cultural adaptation of romantic movies.
Women have never understood their true nature in the first place. If they did, they would realize how anti-Feminist their ‘sweeping’-phrase really is.
They want a man to lead. They do not want to be in control. So, they indicate from the very early stage of a possible relationship that the man has to assert himself.
To be the rock, she can lean on. To be the impulsive adventurer who can show her the world. to be the man, who can put her in her place, when her emotions get out of hand.
Still, as a man, you do not control if she becomes attracted to you. It is not up to you to decide whether she likes your personality or your job or how much money you have.
All you can do, is stay within your own circle. Be who you are and what you are. She will have to decide for herself.
We are not children anymore.
And Feminism killed chivalry along with romance in the name of equality.